Scavenge + Starlight

There is one variation of question clients usually bring me when they see me for a 1:1 session:  How to stay conscious when you forget to trust? They ask this when they want to know how to find clarity during a turbulent time. They ask this when doubt is high, or when they're not centered enough to keep looking at the "problem" by themselves. They ask this when they are pretending they believe in the universal goodness that surrounds them but in their deep places, they do not. They ask this when they are birthing a new version of themselves and everything is shaken to the core. So, how do you stay conscious when you forget to trust? You can't. Many people want to know how to start building a big beautiful life on a foundation of where they are right now. They don't want to know that they need to tear everything down and start building from scratch. They are sure they want to keep the foundations they have, and just do spot repairs here and th...

in this life, it's all about the getting up after the falling down.  the re-centering.  it's that act of movement that breaks the pattern but more importantly, the awareness that proceeds it right before:  yes, off track; yes, unsteady; yes, stress.  it's the dialogue between self and interface -- this is what I mean.  the knowing it's off and the pause you take to witness it and then to re-align.  most people know they are falling, drifting off course.  they can sense it: lowered energy, more anxiety, more worry, less flow, grace, abundance.  the effects of it start to bump their life:  running late, running out of money, shorter tempers, annoyances building and venting.  but people like to wait a bit longer to re-center and re-align; they lose a few days, a week, a month, a few months.  they think they are incapable of getting back up.  perhaps the missing link is the pausing.  maybe, there's not enough pausing. mayb...

Let's start here:  Your best self you, the one you'll be when you finally have the time or the money or the energy to finally do You right:  What's she doing today? What would she be doing to be your best self?  Would she be lounging in bed, really enjoying the downtime?  Would she be up and on her way to the woods for a mucky hike because she loves the nature and the movement?  Would she be meeting friends for brunch because staying connected brings her peace, belonging, and joy?  Would she be taking time to talk to spirit? What's your best self you doing that you are currently not doing? There's always one thing you can do now to bring that best you alive today.  That's self-care.  That's magic potion living.  That's Oprah zone.  No matter what my clients think they are aiming for (ease, flow, magic, abundance, energy, true love, money, healing, time bending ability, etc) it all starts at this intersection:  what would best s...

Before I started to look at my Mind, I didn't even know Just Looking was an option.  I thought it had to be participation 24/7.  "Just look at Mind" was a revelation.  And then when I learned you could look at the wellspring of Emotions, and also not participate in what emerges = I was surprised again.  Why wasn't I told sooner? I tell my clients all the time there is Them, their Mind, their Body, their Emotions, their Stories, and it can all be just looked at.  You can even, mid-getting-swept-away-by-something (emotional outburst, narrative story and drama making, illness, confusion) stop and re-orient yourself into your Themness, your true You.  You can instantly choose something new, some different way of being. It's completely okay to do this. These are things I wanted to know years before I learned them. These are things I think everyone wants to learn.  It's a complete hack to living:  realizing what you think you are isn't even you, an...

there's a lot of talk about the shadow when you get past all the talk about the light in the new age world. if you can get yourself past the shadow talk and down into the realness the new age movement started from, you find gems like this cheat sheet. judgment as shadow elements only takes you so far.  reminding yourself judgment isn't just a rejection of your hidden self and that you can take self-inquiry further:  this is where realness emerges. fear motivates in ways we do not want to acknowledge.  knowing fear and judgment are close friends on the vibrational energy train will help you work deeply with your gap (the space between experience and reaction).  when you judge, it springs from a place of habit and distancing, othering. using the gap to examine the uncomfortableness of it all, and noticing how much you want to get away from that uncomfortableness into somewhere else will help you with the next step: opening the door to the uncomfortableness t...

one of the things that clients often have trouble believing me about is the need to make self-care a non-negotiable priority.  they get that there is a level of physical hygiene or physical activity that they personally, often easily, make a non-negotiable priority in their lives, but they don't quite believe me that soul level self-care requests are as (or more) important to their quality of life and their ability to heighten the magical manifestational skillsets they possess. they don't believe me that  non-negotiable priority self-care is not a to-do list, or something more burdensome they need to incorporate into their already over-stuffed lives.  they don't believe me that focusing on soul level self-care requests actually creates bendable reality opportunities where they gain internal energy spaciousness and insight, more time, and a higher outcome for the other facets of their life.  they want to believe it's difficult to pause and hear the soul level re...

Trouble doesn't have to be terrible.  Events and situations can just unfold.  The universe is supportive and wants the best for you.  You don't need to bring story to what's happening, and you definitely don't need add worry to these equations. My mother was a worrier.  Everything, all the time.  I remember consciously choosing not to be a worrier like her when I was a teenager and I thought there could be another way.  I could see the pain it caused her, how she couldn't put it down, and I thought, terrible things happen in life, and there's no way this is helpful to avoiding them. She felt the worrying made her safe, in control, vigilant.  It was exhausting to watch, and exhausting to be raised in.   Of course, when my own daughter was born and parenting began, my own childhood rearing patterns emerged.  I did my best to pick and choose and release ill-serving habits that were deeply ingrained, but it was messy, and it wa...