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one of the things that clients often have trouble believing me about is the need to make self-care a non-negotiable priority.  they get that there is a level of physical hygiene or physical activity that they personally, often easily, make a non-negotiable priority in their lives, but they don't quite believe me that soul level self-care requests are as (or more) important to their quality of life and their ability to heighten the magical manifestational skillsets they possess.

they don't believe me that non-negotiable priority self-care is not a to-do list, or something more burdensome they need to incorporate into their already over-stuffed lives.  they don't believe me that focusing on soul level self-care requests actually creates bendable reality opportunities where they gain internal energy spaciousness and insight, more time, and a higher outcome for the other facets of their life.  they want to believe it's difficult to pause and hear the soul level requests, and it's even more difficult to incorporate these into a weekly, repeating schedule.  

 they don't believe me that soul level self-care non-negotiable priorities can actually support, enlighten and invigorate someone into a new level of being.  they don't believe me that it's not a scheduled activity (although it could be).  they just want to believe it'll be hard to add in, and harder to keep going at it.

ultimately, non-negotiable priority self-care is about genuine affection for yourself.  it's an in-the-moment clarity conversation between output and input.  it's realignment, subtle and profound.  it's approaching your one, very short, very fragile life with a open receptiveness that is both reverential and actionable.  it's about listening, receiving, and allowing.  it's a portal to latent, emergent qualities in you, your next level you.

 now, how can you not make time for that?

 once you can shift approaching self-care as a to-do list or something more to add in to your life, to a genuinely affectionate, receptive reverential conversational approach between you and your reality, you are on your way to a brand new way of living.   each moment becomes tuning in to a higher idea of yourself that is ultimately surpassed in unexpected ways.  it's unfoldment of true beingness at the nucleus of opportunity, a playful open state of love and being loved.  

 so believe us when we say self-care is an attitude, not an activity.

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