Some of my clients (okay, a lot of my clients) struggle with fully
comprehending the immensity of the self they are. "How are you
doing?" is usually greeted with a mind-based response, or if the client
considers themselves to be aware, they pause a little and respond, or list out
grievances with personal annotations that make their grievances feel, to them,
less like holding a victim-position, and more like self-conscious witnessing.
When I ask, "How are you doing?" in a session, your
"aura" expands with unprocessed, unwanted, unacknowledged
subconscious data and I see this filter down into a response. I learned to look
for this while working with an elder who did medicine work; he'd ask the
question over and over to different people, and his gaze (and his being)
widened to accept the subconscious data. He'd tell me to look, look at what
they do, look at what he does; don't listen, don't try to figure anything out,
just sit and look, all day long, day after day. The subconscious data expansion
into a filtered response remains mostly the same for person to person, when
asked "How are you doing?".
So I approach "How are you doing?" in a session ready to hold
and see all that doesn't make it down the filter. If pieces of the filtered
response and the subconscious data align, we move it to clear it. We bring it
down the chute and onto our laps.
You can do this yourself every day with journaling. Ask yourself
"How are you doing?" and let the mind-based response come. Ask again,
"How are you doing?" and let the grievances and annotations come. Ask
finally, "How are you doing?" and see what's left, the unsaid stuff,
the stuff you don't want to look at, the stuff that makes you feel something
more deeply. You can clear 98% of your own subconscious data this way, if it's
done daily or every 2 days.
Once cleared, once cleared regularly and often and you begin to feel naturally
free inside, you can begin to see this subconscious data expansion everywhere,
even when not asking people "How are you doing?" . Don't use this
gift to pry into people, or to build your ego of specialness; use it to build
your compassionate side, your self acknowledgment of "I was there once
too" side. The world needs more of this: compassionate consideration for
every living being.
I know, it sounds like it's getting close
to love and light. It's not. It's getting us close to living the good life, to
being good neighbours and to hosting good relationships, to realness, to real
interconnection. Love and light is deflection, well-intentioned but not too
real-ly, deeply considerate: it's a way to step away "gracefully" and
quickly without getting too (real-ly) involved. Compassionate consideration is
feeling it deeply, knowing it can be you, and responding from that place of shared,
connected reality. It's important, and we need more people in the world who
know how to do it, and are willing to do it even when it's inconvenient, because it allows a reality to emerge that is different from what we are
currently living. And who doesn’t want that?