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how to hang on when you just can't

in this life, it's all about the getting up after the falling down.  the re-centering.  it's that act of movement that breaks the pattern but more importantly, the awareness that proceeds it right before:  yes, off track; yes, unsteady; yes, stress.  it's the dialogue between self and interface -- this is what I mean.  the knowing it's off and the pause you take to witness it and then to re-align. 

 most people know they are falling, drifting off course.  they can sense it: lowered energy, more anxiety, more worry, less flow, grace, abundance.  the effects of it start to bump their life:  running late, running out of money, shorter tempers, annoyances building and venting.  but people like to wait a bit longer to re-center and re-align; they lose a few days, a week, a month, a few months.  they think they are incapable of getting back up. 

 perhaps the missing link is the pausing.  maybe, there's not enough pausing. maybe they don't know pausing follows witnessing.  maybe they need to know the steps are:  
  • notice (i'm crabby/sad/scared, mad), 
  • witness (what's going on? like really, under the things that are going on, what's going on with me?), 
  • pausing (getting the answer in clear insight, or feeling sense, or clouded hints and memories and then -- then! -- sticking with that uncomfortableness for less than a minute), 
  • re-centering (where I am vs where I hope to be instead). 
re-centering is where the real work should be done. self-care.  using already tested tools, tricks, hacks, habits to get you back into a good flow with life.  you head towards what you know works in a healthy way for you:  comedy, nature walks, coffee, puppies.  but you know it works because you've paid attention to noticing and asking yourself what works for you.

perhaps this is the real thing:  people don't know they need to notice, and then practice, what works for them.  you need your good flow guides when it matters:  when you're facing an illness, when you need real clarity, when you think you are lost and you need to regain yourself.  you practice and hone during the good times so you can rely on habits, hacks, tricks and tools automatically when you've fallen down, or life takes you down.  

you know what works because you noticed and asked and practiced.  

so this is it.  if you're in a good flow right now, life is right, all is well:  then practice, notice, ask for your good flow guides -- find those habits, hacks, tricks and tools that make you feel as good and centered as you possibly can feel. jot them down, physically or mentally.  hammer it in: these are my good flow guides.  

if you're not in a good flow right now, life is hard, you can't find your way:  hold on.  if something comes to mind that seems silly, out of tune with what you're experiencing, a nudge, a glimpse, a release:  do it.  follow the little stones until you are out your mess.  keep calling out.  keep praying.  I can assure you there is no moment when you are alone. the right help will come.  just keep holding on.

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