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tiny changes are all the changes you'll ever need



My notebooks carry tidbits of wisdom around that I use as tarot cards or insight channels when I feel I need something but I'm not sure what.  Honoring the wisdom when it comes to you --- whether it comes from someone else, non-reality, a book, dreamworld, life in general, yourself --- is an important step in integrating it into your mainframe, your central way of being.

One way I honor the wisdom is by writing it down in the notebook I am always carrying around.  This is my way of acknowledging the specialness of the information. The next way I honor the wisdom is by transferring that jotted note down into my permanent notebooks.  This is the way I appreciate the information given to me on a deeper level.  The next way I honor the wisdom is by creating these cheat sheets (the visual above), so I can share and move the information into the world.  This is the way I assimilate the information into my greater consciousness.  If I share it, I've been trying to live it.  

Seeing brokenness in my day to day (traffic jams, things not going my way, low cash flow, avoidance, irritation) and training myself to see it as an invitation for something better (see the sights, relax the grip, appreciate what's here, get in touch with what I'm scared of, see where I feel hurt) is something I'll never stop having to do.  Nor will you, not really, as ego looks for brokenness naturally in order to keep you safe and away from it -- but it can lessen and be an occasional occurrence, rather than a once an hour (or half hour) reality you live in. 

This is the best you can do:  see the invitation in the issue and get clear with what's brewing.  Apply constantly to yourself throughout the day, and you'll reduce the issues slowly, gradually, then suddenly, until they are here and there once in awhile, not everywhere.

This incremental change is monumental.  Tiny actions tip the scale and big shifts happen "suddenly".  If you understand this formula, you can make your life do anything.  

So let's try, all together now. Make a wish for your life, just one.
What can you do today to make a tiny movement in that direction?
Do that.
Do it again.
Do it again x 40 days.
Then see what suddenly changes.  

It's that easy.

 Invitations are openings,
and our lives are filled with new directions to go and new ways to live,
if only we know how to look.




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