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unconscious feelings are the worst


Danielle LaPorte has this great system where she gets you to identify how you want to FEEL in your life. Like right now, and on most days, how do you feel in your life to you? Busy? Stressed? Anxious? Irritated?




Her whole philosophy is for you to name how you really want to feel in your life rather than accidentally/mindlessly feeling things you don't want to feel (e.g. me I want to feel active, invigorated, connected, joyful and vibrant not irritated, annoyed, lazy, stagnant). And then she's all like "when you are not feeling your choice core desired feelings, do something that makes you feel that way".




This is a great tool that takes the current unwanted feeling of your life and switches it up. Over the years, some clients of mine think that in order to feel great (or active or in love), you need some great (or active or in love) things to come along and happen to you. What I love about DL's approach is that it's all CHOICE. You are choosing what your life is feeling like (even if you didn't quite realize it).




In the larger scale of this, see how your family is unconsciously choosing to feel; see how your community is unconsciously choosing to feel. I bet a lot of people, families, and communities would not be unconsciously choosing the feelings they are living.




Figure out how you want to feel in your life. Do the things that make you feel that way. Figure out how you want your family to feel in your life. Do the things that make you feel that way. Figure out how you want your community to feel in your life. Do the things that make you feel that way.




In the larger scale of this, for me, I want my community to feel connected, transparent, open, empowered, renewed. It's not my job to make them agree. It's my job to do these things in community to make me feel this way.




If this seems too simple for communities, families, people, try it out. Start with yourself. See what way you are feeling in your life when you don't make a choice. Just watch yourself live your life, feeling what comes up when you don't use a core desired "map" to lead your way. And then ask, "Would I be choosing to feel this way in my life?". And then look wider: people, families, communities. See for yourself. What are people choosing to feel in their lives unconsciously? Would they choose differently if they knew?

It's almost too simple but it can work wonders if you try it.

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